My mother is a narcissist. Heartless words that spewed out of my mother’s mouth growing up remain with me to this day. My mother’s own advice was “think before you speak”, yet somehow she never captured this wisdom and applied it to herself. I believe my mom doesn’t regret any of her cruel words.
As for me, I’ve said some nasty words to people over the years that were hurtful, must have stung and I feel regretful, however, I’m wondering if it stems from my childhood?
The article below is from PsychCentral Embracing Balance, (written by Nicole Lyons):
“Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt Me.” is a little ditty that I have not and will not sing or say to my children — not ever. I understand the context of this children’s rhyme and the effect that it is supposed to have, throwing it out there is saying that the taunt has no effect and I’m choosing to ignore it and remain calm. While I agree with teaching my children to remain calm in situations where bullying can be present, this rhyme does absolutely nothing for their confidence and self-esteem because, in reality, it’s a lie — words hurt.